Don’t expect your employer to relieve stress at work. Don’t expect your lover to make you happy. Your burnout is not their responsibility. Give yourself permission to do all the work. Setting people free from your expectations will put you back in control. You can be burnout’s victim or victor. Find one reason to do something, not a million reasons to quit. Now, no one stands in your way.
This is an interesting statement of an “internal locus of control,” written by Melissa Gorzela, blogger and author of The Hybrid Homemaker: A Guide to Personal and Financial Freedom, guest posting at the zen habits blog. I don’t think it necessarily either tilts toward the view that “it’s all in our mind” or precludes social change. Rather, it refuses to allow the necessity of social change to paralyze one to inaction. How much social change begins with the simple refusal to allow oneself to go on as one always has? I also like the notion of “setting people free” as it evokes for me the memory of Martin Luther King, Jr.’s idea that the oppressors’ souls are in chains.